A few days ago, a friend got mad at me.
Well, maybe “mad” isn’t the appropriate word….let’s try “upset”.
Yes, that’s better. A few days ago, a friend got upset with me.
He couldn’t believe that I wouldn’t take a “stand”. That I would ignore a monumental cultural issue. That I wouldnt “side with scripture”…….
That I wouldn’t accept his Facebook invitation to join him and thousands of others for Chik-Fil-A Day.
The declined invite evidently spoke volumes to my friend about my values, worldview and willingness to be light in a dark, dark world.
Let me make something clear here – I do stand in agreement with what Mr. Cathy had to say and I support his right to say it (also support someone right to eat at Chick-Fil-A in support of Mr. Cathys stance and a persons right to boycot Chick-Fil-A today if they so choose….aint ‘Merica great!). The Bible is pretty clear on the subject of marriage and is unchanging, regardless of time and cultural circumstance and I affirm the Holy Scriptures from “In the beginning” to “Amen”.
So why decline the invite? Why am I not chomping on a Chicken Biscuit this morning?
*I live in Townville, SC. We’re just south of no where. We have an abundance of Chicken Houses but We don’t have a Chick-Fil-A.
*I’m cheap. Chick-Fil-A isn’t.
*I don’t really like fast-food.
*I’m not a fan of alienating friends. I’ve started Gospel conversations with some friends on Facebook who arent believers. Those conversations would come to an abrubt end if my FB Timeline highlighted my support of Chick-Fil-A (right or wrong, thats what would have happened). I also have many, many friends who see things like marriage very differently than I do. I’m not ashamed of the stance Scripture takes on the subject (I fully affirm that) and I believe that it is the truth of scripture that sets people free…but I’m careful as to how I convey those truths to those who’ve not yet embraced them. It’s not always what you say, it’s how you say it you know. I want to say it (it being the whole of Scripture) in truth AND love.
*I want to be know for what I’m for. I know that many are headed to Deep fried Heaven today do so with good intentions. They’re headed there to physically say “I’m for Biblical marriage”…I also know that most of the people who are boycotting the aforementioned deep fried heaven do NOT see that at all. Instead, they see it as physically stating “I’m against you!”. Believers, for better or worse are often known for what we’re against rather than what we’re for. That’s not always a good thing.
I could go on and on here but It’d bore you to death. But Let me be crystal clear here…I have lots and lots of friends who are downright giddy about Chick-Fil-A Day. Breakfast, lunch and dinner. That’s cool with me. If on a personal level, you feel that your attendance at the Chick-Fil-A will do Gospel good, I’m proud of you and your commitment! If your motivation is Kingdom minded, way to go! This post is in no way a fist shaking at those who’ve taken this particular “stand”. There are things we MUST stand for. Rather, it’s just a call for all of us who believe to be very discerning as to HOW we “Stand”.
But be careful not to label those who declined the invite (like myself) as uncommitted and spineless.
We have our reasons – For me, and the intentional relationships I’m in the process of building, my attendance would have done much more harm than good. I know that. That’s why I’m not there.
So how can people in my situation support a Biblical view of Marriage without alienating those who don’t embrace the stance scripture takes on the subject?
By physically living it out.
You see, it does no good to chomp on a chicken biscuit in support of a scriptural stance on marriage if we don’t live out the truth of Gods Word within our own homes. That’s how we really shine. If a man isn’t loving his wife as Christ loved the church…if a bride isn’t serving and sacrificing for her husband…if our marriages aren’t fulfilling Gods plan and purposes…we’d be better off ironing them out before we ate a sandwich.
Here is what I KNOW –
If I’ll faithfully, passionately, sacrificially love and serve my wife and children without comprimise…living out the truths of scripture…ensuring that our Biblical marriage serves as an example and portrait of the Gospel….in my context, that’ll do the most Gospel good. Even better than eating a sandwich.
Soli Deo Gloria!